I know it’s going to happen.  The feeling that I left something behind.  The fact, that I won’t be going back to the place I called home.  I miss everyone, but it feels like a vacation and not reality.  All I know is that I have people here that will help me through this, including the most loving woman I know, my fiancee.  I don’t know what would happen to me if I didn’t have her.  She’s been through this before.  

will be here in 24 hours.  NBD.  Kidding, I’m so excited I’m shaking!  :DDDD

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Recently I’ve been thinking about my relationship status and how I got to this point.  It took me 8 months to realize that I want to be with this woman for the rest of my life.  So I’ve come up with this theory which I’ve called The Long Distance Relationship Condensation, which kind of sounds like an episode of The Big Bang Theory.  It is not.  

Here it goes.  

I believe that couples in long distance relationships actually condense the time it would take for “normal” relationships (ones where you actually get to see the person) to get to a point in their relationship where they want to tie the knot.  

I know, I know.  You’re like “Tim is crazy, he’s finally lost it.”  FALSE!  I lost it a long time ago.  But hear me out.  These are some of the characteristics of any relationship:

Love

Trust

Commitment

Communication

Patience

Attraction

Contentment (Happiness)

My theory is that in order to be successful in a long distance relationship (and let’s face it, many people suck at it or refuse to do it in the first place), you need to display MORE of the characteristics required in a healthy relationship.  When you’re displaying MORE of it, you actually advance your relationship more and not less, as most would commonly believe. 

For example, when you’re in a L.D. relationship, you have to show your love more.  You have to find ways to show that you care outside the realm of contact.  When you’re in a L.D. relationship, you learn to trust more.  Trust that they’re not doing anything outside of the relationship with other people.  You have to be even more committed, because at any point in time, you can just say “this isn’t worth it” and end the relationship with relative ease.  You have to communicate more, which is not always possible with different time zones and schedules, so more importantly you make communication intentional and you cherish it more because you don’t get to see or talk to each other often.  As an off shoot, you need to be more understanding when you can’t communicate as often as you’d like.  You need to understand that lack of communication doesn’t mean lack of interest.  You need more patience because you’re constantly waiting for the next time you might see each other.  Attraction is built on contact, but needs to be maintained even though you can’t physically be together.  Finally, you need to be content or happy, even though the situation sucks.  I think this is where a lot of L.D. relationships fail.  People are unhappy because they can’t be together and do the stuff that people do in “normal” relationships.  They feel that, and they ignore all other good aspects of what is going on, or have an attitude going into the relationship where they’ve already said they can’t do it.  

So there you have it, The Long Distance Relationship Condensation.  I hope you went away from this post with your mind blown.  I’m a genius.  ;)

Stay frosty 

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I think the world has a misconception that if they make YOU happy, you should marry them.  

Marriage happens when you want to make someone else happy.  I want to make my girlfriend happy.  I like making my girlfriend happy and I know she wants to make me happy.  Marriage is all about sacrifice.  It’s so difficult!  Because we tend to only think about ourselves.  

I’m here to remind the world that marriage is about self-sacrifice.  It’s an institution that God has placed on earth to represent His love for us.  The world says we hurt the people we love the most, but we need to understand that we forgive the people we love the most.  

I want to become the best person for my girlfriend and future wife.  :)

Not to mention the fact that my copy of Mass Effect 3 is just sitting there, unplayed.  :(

You know that feeling when you’re just doing something over and over again.  Call it a routine, or the same-old same-old, or a rut.  And you decide to change something, do something different.  Go on vacation maybe.  

Then that trip pretty much changes the course of your life.  Like the world you’ve come to know has been flipped upside down.

Then you look back on that one singular event and say “what the heck happened?”  

Well, that’s what happened to me.  I decided to take a trip to Medicine Hat, Alberta.  To help out a church.  Then I met someone special.  Someone that to this day has me in awe.  She completes me because she’s everything I need or ever wanted in a woman, and more.  She has faith and courage; and she might not believe it but she has patience.  She’s just so incredible that I want to spend the rest of my life with her.  

You might not know it, but it’s something I’ve desired for a very long time.  I just didn’t think that it would ever happen.  I don’t consider myself hot, or handsome, or smooth.  I’m pretty goofy and I make stupid jokes most of the time.  But she has the ability to make me go “wow” every time I see her.  It baffles me and I just think “how did this happen?”.  How did I get the most beautiful girl to like me? 

You can believe what you want to believe.  Call it fate, or destiny, or whatever.  But I call Him, God.  I believe He can do great things in people’s lives.  I think it just starts with us doing something out of the ordinary.  

I love my girlfriend.  She made me these cookies, one of which I am currently eating.

Yum!